WHY CHOOSING YOUR BUSINESS COACH IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN CHOOSING BUSINESS COACHING

Updated: May 31



What a business coach can mean for you


Choosing the right business coach who will be able to help you unlock your potential and reach new levels of success is a unique business decision. It’s personal. I will be poring over your own business abilities as much as your company's balance sheet. It’s dependent on the rhythm of our relationship. We have to be in tune.


It has to be a relationship with a heartbeat, not a cold transaction. It’s all about trust. Trusting that, as your business coach, I have the experience and knowledge to help you, and the wisdom to steer you to a better place. It’s trusting that I genuinely care about helping you to grow as a person so that you can make your business soar.


How can you tell if that’s going to happen? I am passionate about music, with a long history in the music industry. So I like to use a musical analogy.


Imagine you play the guitar and you’re stuck in a rut. Learning on your own has got you only so far. So, you search for local guitar teachers and find someone to take you on as a student. The teacher shows up, they don’t bring an instrument, they just sit in the corner and watch you play. Then, they hand you a book of scales and tell you to practice every day.


Would you feel inspired? Understood? Injected with passion? I doubt it. Now, in this analogy, if I were that teacher I’d unpack my guitar straight away and invite you to jam with me so I could hear you play. I would start out with trying to understand your skill level whilst instantly getting hands-on, intuitively working with you side by side, naturally demonstrating my own skills at the same time.


Clearly, these two very different experiences would leave you with very different impressions, not only about our teaching ability but the value for money you’re getting out of the lessons. It’s not so different with business coaching. You want to work with someone who is invested in your growth, with the proven skills and rigorous methods to get you there.


But how do you choose from the thousands of business coaches you’ll find in a Google search? Here are some important areas to consider before you choose the right business coach for you. Think of it as selection criteria. It’s your money. It’s your passion. It’s your success. Due diligence is essential.


What to look for in a business coach


Credibility


Some of the best music producers can’t play a note. Some of the best musicians can’t step back and put the pieces together to create the alchemy that makes a great song. Success on stage and at the mixing desk is a rare combination. You need a business coach who has headed up their own boardroom in successful businesses as well as coaching others to run theirs. I came to business coaching through purpose, not as a business opportunity. After decades in business, much of it in high-pressure founder and senior partner roles, I followed my passion for inspiring others and sharing my knowledge and love for business. Coaching was the vehicle to do that. Before you engage a coach, ask about their business career, the lows being just as important as the highs, and check their testimonials (here are some of mine) or ask for references.


Enthusiasm and energy


Your coach should have an infectious passion for helping people, with the energy to match. They don’t have to be a shameless extrovert, but you should get a sense of their love for helping people succeed and their genuine love of driving a business forward. These traits should be evident at your first meeting. If you don’t get the feeling that they're buzzing to help you, walk away. The second part of this is the teaching. You need a coach who selflessly enjoys the teaching aspect, because this is the heart of the coaching process. The beat of the drum. I can, hand on heart, honestly say that teaching others and seeing positive results is my genuine passion. Evolving your business – with love.


Discretion


You’re inviting a coach into your business, which could be privately owned or a family business. Your business performance is linked to you, your goals, values, work ethic and so on. All of which means you’re inviting your coach into a space where the professional and personal can overlap. You’re already thinking one word: trust. You need to trust that they can act with discretion. Do they talk about other clients? Do they brag about their connections? If they do, these are red flags. The power of an external coach is that they’re objective and are there to support you. You should be able to share the details of your business with them as well as your concerns and fears without worrying that you’ll be fodder for conversation with their coaching buddies or other clients.


Accessibility


To be truly effective, working with a business coach needs to feel natural and organic. The coaching process is going to be quite a journey, and you don’t want to wait too long when there are things on your mind you want to bounce off your coach, or problems you want them to help you tackle. Your coach should be available to you. They shouldn’t struggle to fit you into their schedule or take an eternity to respond to calls or emails. They also shouldn’t hide behind a secretary. They might use someone to help them stay organised, but you shouldn’t feel like that person’s job is a gatekeeper. With accessibility comes flexibility. Do you prefer face-to-face meetings or video conferences? Do you like to take deep dives or short sprints? Everyone has a different cadence in their lives and their learning, and a good business coach adapts to yours.


Radical candour


There are no participation awards in the business world. Successful people know they can achieve more, and they have a hunger for learning. They love a challenge. They realise that hard truths, even uncomfortable truths, are all part of the growing process. Radical candour can be hard truths, that should be delivered by your business coach with genuine care. It can be an iron fist in a velvet glove. But it should always be the truth that you need to hear to help you grow. The professional mask clients may have been wearing for decades can get thrown in the bin, as they enter a more vulnerable and honest space. But I really believe the process should come with genuine care and love.


Tough love


Tough love is linked to radical candour, but it’s a closer look at the coach’s methods. Your coach should hold you accountable. When I work with my clients, I outline expectations for your effort and time, and tell you what you can achieve if you are willing to do the work. It’s called tough love because, if you’re not delivering or upholding your end of the bargain, you’re going to hear about it in no uncertain terms. I will push you to adopt what you learn. The work is in the doing, and its fruits are your success. There are no growth hacks or quick fixes, just like your personal trainer can’t do the push ups for you, I can’t take your place. It’s purely down to your hard work, commitment and measurable results.

Empathy


Empathy is about assuming someone else’s life circumstances, walking a mile in their shoes to genuinely understand what they are going through. It starts with listening. Listening with a view to understanding sets the scene for a relationship built on trust. My approach is to form an alliance with you and stand by you in the trenches, experiencing the highs and lows and always being ready to hear what you have to say. Empathy also means that understanding flows in both directions. I know that it’s not just about hearing you out and listening well, but also about me communicating clearly too; being generous in sharing my knowledge and insights.


Sound Methodology


The proof of the pudding is in the eating. Ask your business coach to outline their process and methods upfront. Does it seem structured, measurable, purposeful? Or does it seem like a collection of one-on-one motivational speeches taken straight out of a ‘one size fits all’ manual? You shoul